Prove them wrong 

They told her “you can’t do it on your own” 

“Watch me” she said, with a confident tone. 

She knew she had to prove them wrong, even if it meant they would no longer get along. 

So that’s what she did, she made the decision to move on and make a living. 

They stared and wondered how she did it with such precision. 

How could a once lost young girl pick herself up so neatly? 

Dust herself off and continue as if it was so easy? 

They were confused, “But how did she?” 

She said, “I told you, not to underestimate me” 

“I don’t have time!”

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I know lately I’ve posted a fair bit about ‘time’, and it’s because I’m trying to be more productive with my time. And there’s the issue right there; ‘my’ time. SubhanAllah. Who has given us this time? Who has given us every single blessing that we have?

Even my 8 year old students at the Mosque give me the excuse of “I didn’t have time” when I ask them if they have practised their Qur’an and Surah’s. How can a child possibly not have enough time? That would be them following the priorities and excuses of their parents and family, but that’s a topic for another day.

So what does it mean when someone says they don’t have time? You have time to eat, to sleep, to do your school/Uni work. Why? Because these things are a priority, and what about if you didn’t do them? If you don’t eat and sleep, you will not be able to function properly. And there are consequences for not doing your school work etc.

The same way people ‘don’t have time to pray’ shouldn’t have time to eat. Because just like the nourishment of the physical body is food, the nourishment of the soul is prayer. Just like you will get sick and die if you do not eat and sleep properly, your spiritual heart can also become hard, and even worse; dead.

If we don’t have enough time to seek knowledge in Islam, then we shouldn’t have time to go to school. Sounds a little extreme, however, the Owner of time commanded certain things for us to do, and if we can’t make time for them then what is our priority? This life or the hereafter?

The clock is ticking. I was listening to a tafseer of Surah Fajr just before, which by the way is a great reminder of time. In the tafseer, the Shaykh said that on the Day of Judgement, even the pious will feel that they should have done more for the hereafter. Isn’t that scary? The amount of regret we will feel for every minute we wasted.

This is a reminder to myself first. May Allah make us of those who use our time productively, and be shaded on the Day of Judgement, ameen.

 

 

Sins

​When I think about my life oh deary,

I must have kept the angel on my left shoulder so busy.
Oh angel, how did you not tire of writing my sins?
Until I repented, and a new way of life for me begins?
There were many, and they were not small.
But before I return to you ya Rabb, I ask your forgiveness from them all.
Even the ones that I am not able to recall.
I was so foolish, I can no longer stall.
Repent oh dear friend,
For this life will verily end.
Repent in the darkness of the night
To save yourself from a punishment heavy in might
Repent in the lightness of the day,
For you will not know when your time is underway.
Repent Again in the darkness of the night,
For you do not know when the angel will come to you with light. 

Time is of the essence.

SubhanAllah, what a wake up call!

Today I attended a weekend course Alhamdulillah. The course was called ‘Eternal Home’ by the Alkauthar Institute. It was a detailed seminar on the characteristics of heaven and hell, as well as how to reserve your spot in Jannah, and avoid being among the dwellers of Jahannam.

Here I was being okay with doing what I usually do, even though I know I need to do so much more. I am someone who procrastinates A LOT, right up until the deadline. But there is no ‘deadline’ so to speak, for ibadah (worship). No one is holding me accountable at this very moment, no one is asking what knowledge I have attained this week, or how many Sunnah prayers I have prayed.

Although lately I’ve had the intention to do more, I think today was it for me. Why are we happy or satisfied with the worship that we do? Alhamdulillah, we pray 5 times a day, read a few pages of Qur’an. And then what? Spend the rest of our day on Facebook and other social media outlets, or watching T.V. There is SO much we can do, sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the amount of knowledge I have to learn. The more I learn about this perfect deen, the more I realise there is to learn. SubhanAllah. There are so many areas of knowledge we can learn from, there is always room for improvement with our salah, our recitation, memorisation, our thikr, our deen in general. Even useful worldly knowledge.

I know that comparing ourselves to others is a big fat NO NO. But unfortunately, it’s something that we sometimes do. We may be content with reading a few pages of Qur’an a day, even though we have plenty of time. Why? Maybe because we are surrounded by people who do a lot less, surrounded by our friends and family who don’t pray, and we become okay with doing less than what we are capable of because others aren’t even doing that much. Or, we may even compare it to how we used to spend our time, maybe we’ve gone from reading one page a day to four. And we stop at 4, even though we have the time and means to read much much more. At least it’s better than what we used to read, right? Well, if we are capable of doing more then we should, without burning ourselves out of course.

We’ve become okay with being ordinary. Ordinary at everything, including our deen. It’s not to say that everyone should become scholars, rather we should work to our highest potential (which we often underestimate).

Why should we try to exceed our potential? Because we can never get back time that is lost, wasted, and gone by. Time is a blessing of Allah swt;

“The blessing of time is one of the greatest blessings that Allaah can bestow upon His slaves. Allaah even swears by time in some cases, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“By Al‑‘Asr (the time)”

[al-‘Asr 103:1] 

– because of the importance and blessing of time.  

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Make the most of five things before five others: life before death, health before sickness, free time before becoming busy, youth before old age, and wealth before poverty.” See Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 1077. “

Imagine all of those who have passed on. Don’t you think that they would want to come back to earth to prostrate to Allah swt. And those in graves that would give absolutely anything just to come back for one second to say “La illaha Ilallah”.

How much time do we waste? We’re going to be asked by Allah swt on that Day what we did with our time. Is our answer going to be sufficient?

I’ll leave you with one hadith inshaaAllah.

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “No one of you will enter Paradise by his deeds alone.” They asked, “Not even you, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Not even me, unless Allah covers me with His Grace and Mercy” (Bukhari, Riqaq, 18; Muslim, Munafiq, 71-73).

If the Prophet saw (whom is the best of mankind), if his deeds alone are not enough for Jannah, what about us?

A reminder to myself first and foremost, and then to you. May we be productive with our time, and may Allah swt allow us into Jannah by His Infinite Mercy, ameen.

Is beauty in the eye of the beholder?

“Mirror mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?”

She didn’t feel pretty. Or beautiful. Because that’s what society told her. 

Then she remembered that someone once told her; ‘true beauty lies within.’

‘If you look beautiful but you’re ugly on the inside, then are you still beautiful?’ She thought to herself. 

Then she remembered reading that God doesn’t look at your outer beauty, rather He is only interested in your inner beauty. 

And what’s beauty anyway? 

‘Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?’

But wait, society taught her that beauty is on the outside, and that if you’re not ‘beautiful’ then you should fix that. 

And they had all the ‘remedies’ to help you get there. 

From the eyebrow plucking to the eyelash curlers. From the over priced foundation to the deadly waist trainers. 

She picked up the magazine she bought that week and flicked through the pages. ‘How contradictory’, she thought. 

On page 9 there is an article about loving and embracing who you are, regardless of your ‘flaws’. 

However, on page 15, 17, 18.

She stopped counting. 

Because every page after that was a product that marketed the exact opposite. 

And if it weren’t a product, it was an article about natural ways to get rid of all those flaws. 

So which is it? 

Why the mixed messages? 

Why do we keep pretending that these messages aren’t harming us and our youth? 

Why do we keep fooling ourselves to believe that these things are harmless?

Because I tell you, many young girls have been left depressed. And that is due to the very fact that they don’t look like the girl in the magazine. 

But how could you possibly look like that air brushed, photo shopped, edited, ‘perfect’ woman. 

How many females have committed suicide because they didn’t think that they fit into society’s idea of beautiful? 

And how many more have to die before we realise that this, in fact, is far more serious than any of us ever comprehended? 

We need to teach our women, young and old, to love themselves. To accept and embrace who they are. Teach them that true beauty really is on the inside. 

Teach them this. Even though it does not stop this harsh world from judging and making fun of their physical appearance.

You may be mocked for wearing your hair a little different. You may be mocked for not showing your hair at all. 

The pretty girls may laugh at you.

But if you respond with kindness and humility, to that and to everything else, and you don’t allow it to make you harsh and bitter,

then who is the one that is truly beautiful? 

 

One last time.

Our body is an amanah (trust).

Those ears you use to listen to music, something that Allah (SWT) has made impermissible- a deaf mu’min would kill to hear the recitation of the Qur’an just one more time.

These eyes that we use to look at impermissible things, a blind person would kill just to see the creation of Allah one more time.

This mouth we use to curse and backbite from, a speech impaired person would love nothing more than to say the words of Allah out loud one last time.

These feet that we use to take us to places that Allah has forbidden for us to go, a person with no legs would give up everything he has just to walk to the Masjid one more time.

These hands we use to write destructive things online with, someone with no hands would love nothing more than to be able to lift his hands to make du’a to Allah (SWT) and hold the noble Qur’an in his hands just one more time.

All this food and drink we excessively fill our stomachs with, many poor children and adults all over the world would kill to have just one bite.

The time that we so often waste- so many people in their graves would do anything just to come back to the dunya for ONE minute to prostrate to Allah (SWT).

Our body is an amanah, out time on this earth is so limited. Let’s think about less fortunate when we are doing things we’re not supposed to be doing. We will be asked about these things when we meet our Lord, are we prepared?

The Prophet (SAW) said: ”Take advantage of five matters before five other matters: your youth before you become old; your health, before you fall sick; your wealth, before you become poor; your free time before you become preoccupied, and your life, before your death.” (Narrated by Ibn Abbas in the Mustadrak of Hakim & Musnad Imam Ahmad. Sahih)

Comparisons

Have you ever felt really down because you felt as though one of your friends or someone you know has achieved a lot more than you have? This could be in terms of knowledge, their socio-economic status, perhaps they have a better job or they have already graduated. Maybe they’re married and have children, and you feel like you’re falling behind. I think comparing yourself to others is one of the most poisonous things you can do to yourself. Unless you are comparing your situation to those who have less than you, in order for you to be grateful.

On the authority of Abu Huraira (R.A.A.) who said: The Prophet (PBUH), said: “Look upon one who is below you in status. In this way you will not look down upon the grace of that God bestowed upon you.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

We all know this hadith, and we know that the prophet Muhammad (SAW) only gives us the best advice. Then why do we keep comparing ourselves to those who we think are more ‘blessed’ or have more, even though we know we shouldn’t? I think sometimes it’s hard to control, it’s hard not to feel down when your friends have secure jobs and you’re job seeking almost everyday. However, it’s important that when we realise we are doing this, we stop ourselves and remember those who are less fortunate than us. It’s important that we remind ourselves that everyone has a different journey, and, that our sustenance has already been written by the Greatest of writers. If and when we are going to get married and have kids has been written by the Creator of the heavens and the earth, and He is the best of planners.

It’s also important to remember than even if we never get a job or our dream job, even if we live our whole life struggling financially, it’s ok. Why? Because wealth isn’t a measure of how much Allah SWT loves us. Health, wealth, anything in this world does not determine our status with Allah SWT. These things are a test for us, whether we pass them or not will influence our relationship with Allah SWT. If He wills that we will live our life in poverty it does not mean that He is displeased with us, and vice versa. Do we forget that our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW), who was sent as a mercy to mankind didn’t live a life of luxury? He was handpicked by Allah SWT to spread the message of Islam, he is so beloved to Allah SWT, and he lived his life in poverty. And what about all the other prophets (peace be upon them all), they were all shepherds, only a number of them were wealthy (correct me if I’m wrong). They all lived simple and humble lives. The same goes for the companions of the Prophet (SAW), they knew that this life is temporary, and they lived according to that.

 

Qualities in a spouse 

Whilst waiting at the Tyre shop today, a brother walked in with 2 young boys (presumably his sons), probably aged between 8 and 11. I was minding my own business, scrolling through my phone. They sat two seats away from me so it was hard not to hear. One of the boys said ‘I’m bored’. The man replied something like ‘You’re bored? Let’s get rid of your boredom. Say La illaha ilallah.’ Then he went on to say ‘Say SubhanAllah, Allahuakbar’. 

Then he started asking them ‘What does la illaha ilallah mean? What does illah mean?’. The boys were having trouble answering, and he patiently kept asking ‘What does la mean in English? What does illah sound like?’ And so on. SubhanAllah, he kept so patient and consistent with them. Many of us would just give up and tell them the answer or get frustrated, myself included. But he kept asking them different questions that related to the initial question so that they could figure out the answer. 

And I thought, that’s the quality we should be looking for in a spouse. It sounds like an obvious thing; look for someone who has deen, is patient, has a good character etc. But I think sometimes when we are faced with a potential spouse we compromise or think of compromising some very essential characteristics and traits. 

The idea of marriage and the feelings of infatuation can often get the better of us. And we might find ourselves forgetting to ask the person how they feel about kids, how they interact with kids and so on. We might feel like their looks make up for the qualities missing in their personality. And of course no one is perfect. But it’s better to look past someone’s looks rather than their deen and character. And we do this, intentionally or unintentionally. 

I was a little saddened when they told me my car was ready, as I found their conversation so beautiful and uplifting, MashaAllah. 

It made me think further about marriage and the pressure that comes from our family and society. Sometimes people settle for less because they’re scared that if they wait a few more years, no one will want to marry them. And yes, if you find someone that ticks all the boxes then go ahead. But don’t settle for less. Don’t compromise on things that you deep down know will have a detrimental affect on yourself and your children in future. Look for someone who will not only help you elevate your imaan, increase your knowledge etc. but also someone who will help you raise your children in the best islamic way, that is, in accordance with the Qur’an and Sunnah, in’shaa’Allah.  

May Allah keep the brother and ourselves steadfast on this deen, bless the marriage of those that are married, and grant a pious spouse to those of us who are not yet married, ameen. 

Aleppo

​You know what’s the saddest part about what’s happening in Aleppo? 

Our Ummah turns a blind eye, and I’m the most guilty of all. 

We criticize the mainstream media because they don’t see this as ‘newsworthy’. 

But we should know better, what have WE done to help? 

We criticize Muslim countries, but what have WE done? 

Our Muslim brothers and sisters are calling for our help, are we responding fast enough? Or are we too busy blaming one another?

How many times did you scroll past the horror until you realised it’s pretty serious (understatement).  

How do we have the audacity to complain about our lives? 

It’s sad to say that I wouldn’t be surprised if one day we needed the same help and they turned us away.
You know what’s the scariest part? 

What will our answer be on Yaumul Qiyama when Allah SWT asks us what we did to help our brothers and sisters in need. What were we doing whilst they were getting tortured, raped, bombed? 

What will our answer be? 

‘Oh Allah, I was too busy working’? 

‘Oh Allah, I was preoccupied with my family’?

‘Oh Allah, I was living my own life, having fun with my friends, I didn’t even stop to think’? 

‘Oh Allah, I was too selfish to put my own needs aside, I was careless’? 

‘Oh Allah I was expecting so and so to help’?

Forgive me ya Allah.

“And fear a Day when you will be returned to Allah. Then every soul will be compensated for what it earned, and they will not be treated unjustly.” [Qur’an 2:281]
Dearest Muslim friends and family, 

Today, we feel sorry for our brothers and sisters in Aleppo. On Yaumul Qiyama, they’re probably going to feel sorry for us. 

By helping them you are essentially helping yourself, just like every good deed, every charity you give.

The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:

“…If anyone fulfils his brother’s needs, Allah will fulfil his needs; if one relieves a Muslim of his troubles, Allah will relieve his troubles on the Day of Resurrection…” [Bukhari and Muslim]. 

It may seem as individuals there is nothing we can do. There is always something we can do;

Make as much sincere dua as you can, raise awareness, DONATE, speak to your connections, raise money. We need to stop pointing fingers and utilise the blessings Allah SWT has given us. 

I fear the Day I have to face my Lord and tell Him why I didn’t do enough.  

#Aleppoisburning 

The Ummah is sleeping.

The lonely rose in my garden

She stood alone in the rain

Cold, wet, feeling unbearable pain

She looked up at the beauty of the sky

Then she remembered why

Why she was here

It was all made clear

She remembered why she was created

To worship her Lord unassociated

She no longer felt she was in an empty space

Being alone she could now embrace