Tangents

Not everyone will be happy for you the way you may be happy for them.

We live in a day and age where we constantly tell people what we are doing. Not everyone wants the best for you. Jealousy and envy is real, even from people you would least expect.

I think that everyone should benefit off your kindness, however I feel that not everyone deserves to know certain bits of information about you. Not everyone will be happy for you, not everyone will appreciate that you told them a certain thing. I’m quite a private person, and wont talk about my personal life except with those whom I feel comfortable with, and even then, I limit what I tell them. It’s not because I don’t trust them, nor do I have anything to hide, but because there are things in my life which people will never understand.

I think one or two people (my sister and/or best friend) know that I blog and LOVE writing. They may have even forgotten because I told them so long ago and I never talk about it. It may sound silly, but I feel like people don’t deserve to know that I love writing. Truth is, all my life everyone but a very few have always put me down, underestimated me and never took me seriously when I said I want to do so and so. Maybe because everyone else is a talker not a doer, they’ve placed me in the same category. If people that knew me came across my blog, they would probably never guess it was me, despite the familiarity in my life experiences that I have shared.

I like staying somewhat anonymous on here, but one of my life goals is to write a book. And I don’t know how I feel about my name being over this non-anonymous book! Which may contain personal experiences, so much for being a private person! I just think I have something worth sharing (I may be wrong), and I just want to prove to myself that I can do this. 

On a completely unrelated side note! I am SO excited for Ramadan. And I think we should all try to make changes now instead of waiting, even though I can almost smell it, it’s that close! There is no guarantee that either of us will live to see Ramadan, or be in a healthy state. SubhanAllah. On that topic, I visited a friend today who is sick (although temporary), it made me think about how health can be taken away at any instant. Crazy isn’t it. One day we’re here, the next day we’re not.

Last week I got pretty sick with a cold, it’s winter now in Australia, so flu season is here. And I thought ‘wow, we don’t appreciate our health until it has declined’, even for those few days, simple tasks became difficult. And do we appreciate the beauty of health when we are better? How Great is Allah swt, we are ungrateful, yet He still feeds and clothes us, Alhamdulillah.

Back to my original post, not everything about you should be shared. Even those whom you think will support you, might not. In fact, they may even do the opposite by discouraging you to follow your dreams and passions. 

Speaking of passions; last night I met a sister who came here from overseas on a research visa. She came here to do her PhD funded by her university, in a career she doesn’t even want to pursue. She is 35 and is doing it because of the pressure of her parents. She told me about how her dream job is in children’s illustration. The way she spoke about the love she has for art was inspiring, yet sad at the same time. Life is too short to live it for people, even your parents. Live life in the pursuit of attaining Allah’s pleasure first, and then follow your passion no matter how difficult it may be. 

I have gone off on way too many tangents. I guess this is what happens when you’re still writing at almost 1 a.m. 

Summary 

1. Keep some things to yourself, not everyone deserves a piece of your life. 

2. Appreciate your health and everything else before it is taken away from you. And, don’t wait until Ramadan to make a change. Life is short. Death is unexpected. 

3. I am weird and have trust issues. 

4. Follow your dreams! As corny as it sounds, live life for you! 

As always, reminder to myself before anyone. 

Qualities in a spouse 

Whilst waiting at the Tyre shop today, a brother walked in with 2 young boys (presumably his sons), probably aged between 8 and 11. I was minding my own business, scrolling through my phone. They sat two seats away from me so it was hard not to hear. One of the boys said ‘I’m bored’. The man replied something like ‘You’re bored? Let’s get rid of your boredom. Say La illaha ilallah.’ Then he went on to say ‘Say SubhanAllah, Allahuakbar’. 

Then he started asking them ‘What does la illaha ilallah mean? What does illah mean?’. The boys were having trouble answering, and he patiently kept asking ‘What does la mean in English? What does illah sound like?’ And so on. SubhanAllah, he kept so patient and consistent with them. Many of us would just give up and tell them the answer or get frustrated, myself included. But he kept asking them different questions that related to the initial question so that they could figure out the answer. 

And I thought, that’s the quality we should be looking for in a spouse. It sounds like an obvious thing; look for someone who has deen, is patient, has a good character etc. But I think sometimes when we are faced with a potential spouse we compromise or think of compromising some very essential characteristics and traits. 

The idea of marriage and the feelings of infatuation can often get the better of us. And we might find ourselves forgetting to ask the person how they feel about kids, how they interact with kids and so on. We might feel like their looks make up for the qualities missing in their personality. And of course no one is perfect. But it’s better to look past someone’s looks rather than their deen and character. And we do this, intentionally or unintentionally. 

I was a little saddened when they told me my car was ready, as I found their conversation so beautiful and uplifting, MashaAllah. 

It made me think further about marriage and the pressure that comes from our family and society. Sometimes people settle for less because they’re scared that if they wait a few more years, no one will want to marry them. And yes, if you find someone that ticks all the boxes then go ahead. But don’t settle for less. Don’t compromise on things that you deep down know will have a detrimental affect on yourself and your children in future. Look for someone who will not only help you elevate your imaan, increase your knowledge etc. but also someone who will help you raise your children in the best islamic way, that is, in accordance with the Qur’an and Sunnah, in’shaa’Allah.  

May Allah keep the brother and ourselves steadfast on this deen, bless the marriage of those that are married, and grant a pious spouse to those of us who are not yet married, ameen. 

Aleppo

​You know what’s the saddest part about what’s happening in Aleppo? 

Our Ummah turns a blind eye, and I’m the most guilty of all. 

We criticize the mainstream media because they don’t see this as ‘newsworthy’. 

But we should know better, what have WE done to help? 

We criticize Muslim countries, but what have WE done? 

Our Muslim brothers and sisters are calling for our help, are we responding fast enough? Or are we too busy blaming one another?

How many times did you scroll past the horror until you realised it’s pretty serious (understatement).  

How do we have the audacity to complain about our lives? 

It’s sad to say that I wouldn’t be surprised if one day we needed the same help and they turned us away.
You know what’s the scariest part? 

What will our answer be on Yaumul Qiyama when Allah SWT asks us what we did to help our brothers and sisters in need. What were we doing whilst they were getting tortured, raped, bombed? 

What will our answer be? 

‘Oh Allah, I was too busy working’? 

‘Oh Allah, I was preoccupied with my family’?

‘Oh Allah, I was living my own life, having fun with my friends, I didn’t even stop to think’? 

‘Oh Allah, I was too selfish to put my own needs aside, I was careless’? 

‘Oh Allah I was expecting so and so to help’?

Forgive me ya Allah.

“And fear a Day when you will be returned to Allah. Then every soul will be compensated for what it earned, and they will not be treated unjustly.” [Qur’an 2:281]
Dearest Muslim friends and family, 

Today, we feel sorry for our brothers and sisters in Aleppo. On Yaumul Qiyama, they’re probably going to feel sorry for us. 

By helping them you are essentially helping yourself, just like every good deed, every charity you give.

The Prophet Muhammad SAW said:

“…If anyone fulfils his brother’s needs, Allah will fulfil his needs; if one relieves a Muslim of his troubles, Allah will relieve his troubles on the Day of Resurrection…” [Bukhari and Muslim]. 

It may seem as individuals there is nothing we can do. There is always something we can do;

Make as much sincere dua as you can, raise awareness, DONATE, speak to your connections, raise money. We need to stop pointing fingers and utilise the blessings Allah SWT has given us. 

I fear the Day I have to face my Lord and tell Him why I didn’t do enough.  

#Aleppoisburning 

The Ummah is sleeping.

The lonely rose in my garden

She stood alone in the rain

Cold, wet, feeling unbearable pain

She looked up at the beauty of the sky

Then she remembered why

Why she was here

It was all made clear

She remembered why she was created

To worship her Lord unassociated

She no longer felt she was in an empty space

Being alone she could now embrace

 

Reflections from Surah Al-Fatiha

Every time I listen to a tafsir on any Surah, I am absolutely mind blown. One Surah that never ceases to amaze me is of course Surah Al-Fatiha. Whilst it’s fresh in my head, I just want to share some points so that you may also benefit in’shaa’Allah. 

When we say Alhamdulillah- We know it means All praise belongs to Allah (SWT). Not ‘I praise Allah’ or ‘We praise Allah’. Why? Because when me and you are gone, Allah is still praiseworthy. So, essentially, it translates to ‘All worship was, is and will always belong to Allah (SWT). 

Rabb- Means more than Lord and Master, it also means, Protector, Guider, Creator, Sustainer, and more. 

Rahman and Raheem we know as ‘the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. These are simple translations. Rahman also translates as Abuntantly and Unlimitedly Merciful. Raheem is Constantly Merciful. What an amazing and perfect combination, SubhanAllah. 

Middeen refers to the Day of Judgement. More specifically, Retribution- i.e. Getting what you deserve/ Consequences of ones actions. 

Iyaka Na’budu- It is only You we worship. In the word Na’budu also has the word abd which means slave. The Shaykh said so beautifully “Our prayer is proof that we are in fact slaves of Allah, otherwise it’s an empty claim if we don’t pray”. The reason for the ‘we’; Emphasises the importance of unity: The ultimate way to establish unity is through the worship of Allah (SWT). 

Wa Iyaka nasta iyn- The word Nasta’iyn comes from the word ayn which is one of two words for ‘help’ in the Arabic language. This help is the kind of help where you seek daily assistance. “A believer constantly seeks the help of Allah in every little thing he or she does”. 

At the beginning of the Surah, it started off in third person. Then went to second person (which is closer and more intimate) once ‘worship’ was mentioned. SubhanAllah. 

Nothing in the Qur’an is coincidental, so why did Allah (SWT) mention worship before help? The best way to ask Allah SWT for help is to ask straight after worshipping Him. 

Grammatically, the word ‘iyaka’ does not have to be repeated twice in the one sentence. So why does Allah SWT separate worship and help? To subtly inform His slaves that even if they haven’t been worshipping Him, they can still ask for help. SUBHANALLAH. 

It is mind blowing stuff. This was a tafsir done by a Shaykh, and what I have written is from my notes. There is only so much detail I could add in, please listen to a tafsir that will give you more detail and make it more personal. I haven’t even come to the end of the Surah. In the same tafsir, the Shaykh explains how Allah SWT tells His angels that we are praising Him. And how Allah SWT responds back to our praise. Any mistakes made are mine. Allah SWT is perfect. 

We know simple translations because it’s hard to add many words to one Arabic word. The English translation does not do justice to the eloquence of the Arabic language, and how Allah SWT places particular words in certain places. May Allah SWT make it easy for us to learn Arabic, ameen. 

I found this content in ‘Qalam Now’ where there is some short courses you can take, including Fiqh of Salah. I definitely recommend having a look into it. I had the first month free and after that it’s only $10 a month. Invest in your akhira. Assalamu alaykum 💕

Compromises

You know what is wrong with our ummah? It’s that we compromise too much. I’m not speaking of the good compromise – the ones that we make for other humans, such as compromising our time and things in order to make relationships work. No, I’m talking about the kind of compromises we make regarding our values. We compromise our whole belief system, why? Because everyone else is doing the same…

We are desensitized to things like alcohol, music, interest etc, not only by Western culture, but also from our fellow Muslim brothers and sisters. Our mindset has slowly gone from “I’ll never do that” to “Well, everyone else is doing it”. So and so person is religious and they do it, so it must not be that bad, right..? Wrong. What was decreed as haram will always be haram. Just because you live in a kuffar country, it doesn’t make interest halal. Yes, Islam is supposed to be easy, but you don’t pick and choose what suits you.

What complicates things even more is when people throw culture in the mix. Oh what a disaster! 

Everyday I’m surrounded by Muslims who think it’s okay to drink and smoke and party. Muslims who mix culture in to this Deen that has been perfected for us. Sometimes it gets so frustrating to be around these people. Not because I’m judging them, but because I’m afraid that their mentality will rub off on me. I’m afraid that shaytan will beautify these things for me, the way he’s beautified it for them. I’m afraid that I will be of the wrong doers. I’m afraid that I’ll go back to living my life in disobedience to Allah SWT. Everyday I’m surrounded by Muslims who live their life as if they don’t know their true purpose. I’m not saying I’m better than them, no, because I was there a few years ago. 

What will it take for us to wake up and realise we need to change? Is it the death of a loved one? Is it a near death experience? 

I would give anything to have family that prays with me, friends that elevate my imaan. I would give anything to be surrounded by Muslims that don’t give you the look when they find out you aren’t going to their music filled wedding. People who support me to be the best Muslim I can be. 

This is starting to sound a little whiney. Alhamdulillah for everything, for the roof over my head, for the clean water and food. Alhamdulillah that I have a family, an income and an education. Alhamdulillah, Allah has opened my eyes to what’s really important. 

I just can’t image how reverts feel, especially if their family is unsupportive. The sad thing is, a lot of our families have born Muslim, grown up Muslim, but raised the western way. Raised with too much culture and not enough religion. Therefore, when they see you practicing, they’re not very supportive. This baffles me every single day. May ALLAH make it easy for us to practice our Deen. May Allah make it easy for us to gain knowledge everyday, put it into practice and give dawah in a way that is pleasing to Him. Ameen. 

May Allah guide us all, keep us firm on this Deen, and make it easy for us to be the best Muslims we can be. Ameen.

P.s. excuse the jumble, it doesn’t quite flow. #1amrants

 

Sahabah

The more I read and learn about the Prophet SAW, his companions, wives, and the rest of the believers of that time, I feel humbled and saddened at the same time. 

SubhanAllah, they were so kind, patient, caring, loving. And while most of us have these attributes, at times of distress they seem to disappear. 

When the sahabah were faced with difficulties  (which were more than what we are facing) they stayed humble, and only took whatever action they thought was pleasing to Allah SWT. 

Sometimes I feel sad about not being born into that era. Imagine living in those times. What a blessing. Yet Allah SWT in His Infinite Wisdom knows best, therefore we have to trust His knowledge and wisdom, and try to make a difference here and now. We will never be able to live up to the sahabah  (may Allah be pleased with them all), however, we were given the same hours per day, and the same days per week. 

Alhamdulillah, we have so much information literally at the touch of our fingertips. Just like they used their resources effectively and became honorable people, we should also use the resources of our time to build our Akhira by learning the Deen and teaching it to others in’shaa’Allah.

May Allah make it easy for us to use our time wisely and effectively, so that we can meet the Creator of the heavens and the earth, Ameen. 

The little things

Isn’t it amazing the gifts that Allah has blessed us with. The ability to see, hear, talk, smell, feel physically, spiritually and emotionally. SubhanAllah when things get tough in life, we tend to forget how much Allah has blessed us with, although we would never be able to count them. 

Allah SWT says in the Qur’an; “And He gave you from all you asked of Him. And if you should count the favor of Allah , you could not enumerate them. Indeed, mankind is [generally] most unjust and ungrateful.” (14:34)

It is so easy to feel overwhelmed by sadness when something doesn’t go our way. We forget all the good that we have. And before that issue/trial came about, were we grateful for the current state we were in? We often take for granted the ‘small’ and ‘simple’ things. We have clean drinking water, fresh food and a roof over our head. But we still feel ungrateful sometimes, SubhanAllah. 

The Messenger SAW said; “Whoever among you wakes up secure in his property, healthy in his body, and he has his food for the day, it is as if he were given the entire world.

This morning I woke up in an usually agitated mood. I was a little grumpy and worried about my financial status and whether I would have enough money to last me for the next couple of weeks (I recently left my job). Anyway, I went outside into the sunshine, and read a couple of chapters of a small book that I’m reading which is based on the life of the Prophet Muhammad SAW (not a full seerah rather his characteristics moreso). What I read on one of the first few pages changed my mood and attitude completely. “…He trusted Allah so much that he did not fear poverty.” (Referring to Muhammad SAW). And on the next page the author wrote how much the Prophet SAW was focused on the hereafter, and how he refused to take from this world anything that was beyond his basic needs. How often we forget our purpose in this life… SubhanAllah, no wonder he was sent as a mercy to all mankind. And I posed the question to myself, and encourage everyone to also think about this; how much do we really strive to follow our Prophet SAW? It’s as if we’re in a constant state of take take take (from the dunya) yet there is a hole in our heart that can only filled by the remembrance of Allah SWT. We’re always running after this life and everything in it, forgetting that life is temporary. The Prophet SAW said: “Be in this world as though you were a stranger or a wayfarer.”
We need to detach ourselves from the dunya, detach ourselves from anything that gets in the way of our relationship with Allah SWT. May Allah make it easy for us to always remember the reason we are here in the first place, so that we may be among the righteous and among the ones who have Allah’s shade on the day of Judgement, so that we may be in the highest level of Jannah. Ameen. 

Weddings

One of the most significant times in a person’s life is marriage, and yet sometimes I wonder whether people get married to start a family or throw a wedding party. 

I will never understand why people spend thousands and thousands of dollars on a wedding. Whether it’s from an Islamic view or not, I just don’t get it. Yes, it’s an amazing celebration, but there are people with average salaries that blow all their life savings on one day. And on top that, they’re paying it off for another few years. I am talking Muslim weddings, ranging from 20 thousand to a hundred thousand dollars. That money could be spent helping the poor and needy- which is essentially building their akhira, but instead they spend it on this extravagant wedding in order to please people whom they don’t even like or socialise with. (And let’s face it, as a ‘wog’ or an Arab, you’re expected to invite your sisters’ husbands’ cousins’ uncle in which you only ever see once a year..!)

Not to mention all the haram that takes place on what’s supposed to be a blessed day. Free mixing, music, extravagant spending. Why would anyone want to start off their marriage disobeying Allah? “Oh but we’re in the 21st century”,”It’s not a big deal”, “it’s just one day”, it’s tradition!”… All this effort to make it seem like it’s normal or okay.  

Some people are so consumed about their wedding day plans, they almost forget why they are getting married. They spend months, sometimes years planning the ‘perfect’ wedding and engagement. Two big events, over within hours. Yet so much time, effort, money, and planning has gone into them. For what? To announce your marriage? To please people you see only on Eid? 

It’s almost funny, when you tell people that you want to conduct your marriage ceremony in the most simple way; a Walima at a Mosque, they think that you are out of your mind because you aren’t following your cultures tradition. Unfortunately, because of families disagreeing with young couples, and putting a huge amount of pressure on them- they end up compromising and end up having a traditional wedding. I’ve seen this happen. This way, the family is happy and the couple doesn’t have to hear their nagging anymore, the family feels like they have ‘properly’ celebrated their child’s wedding because they were able to get up and dance. At what cost? Are they going to save you on the day of Judgement when there is no help, but the help and shade of Allah SWT. 

We need to change our priorities. We are so consumed by the dunya that we forget that this life is only temporary. It’s hard when your family is upset at you and they don’t understand you, but don’t compromise your Deen because of them. Allah always comes first, it is only Him that is able to forgive you, it is only Allah that determines your hereafter. So don’t give in. May Allah make it easy for us to speak with our families gently when they disagree with us. May Allah make it easy for us to be calm with them, and keep good relations whilst at the same time, not making any compromises to our religion, Ameen. 

Jannah

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Allaah says: ‘I have prepared for My righteous slaves that which no eye has seen, no ear has heard and it has never crossed the mind of man. All of that is reserved, besides which all that you have known is as nothing.’ Then he recited: ‘No person knows what is kept hidden for them of joy as a reward for what they used to do’ [al-Sajdah 32:17 – interpretation of the meaning].” 

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3072) and Muslim (2824) — the report narrated by Muslim adds: “apart from that of which Allaah has informed you.” 

​I didn’t write the following, I don’t know who did but I absolutely love it. 

“Imagine… sitting with your spouse in Jannah. And then deciding what the plans would be for that day…

Should we go outside, sit on our thrones, with waterfalls of milk and honey flowing beneath us? And enjoy a cup of Jannah wine, while smelling the sweet scent of Jannah musk?

Should we go to the souq, the market place, and meet all of our old friends that we used to kick it off with in the dunya, and talk about what dunya was like, and how we all made it here, and how Allah (swt) bestowed His favor upon us?

And then your spouse says, you know what, how about we go visit the Prophet (ﷺ) today. And so you and your spouse, go hands in hand, walking towards the house of the Prophet (ﷺ)

You pass by the homes of Talha and Zubair (ra) and you say salaam to them. And then you go and knock on the door of the Prophet (ﷺ) in Jannah.

And lo and behold, Rasulullah (ﷺ) opens, with a big smile on his face, and says Ahlan wa Marhaban, Welcome, and embraces you.

And invites you to sit inside his home, in his noble living room, and sits right across from you and asks you if would like a cup of Jannah tea.

And you sit in the home of the Prophet (ﷺ) and Rasulullah (ﷺ) gives you a cup of tea. And he sits infront of you and gives you his undivided attention.

Imagine what that discussion would be like…what would you tell him? what would you ask him?

Would you tell him about your favorite moment in the seerah? Or would you ask him what Taif was really like? and how he still managed to remember us, as the blood spilled from his noble face?

But in Jannah, there are no more tears and no more fears. Just the sweetness of success and sacrifices.

Imagine him (ﷺ) telling you an inside joke between him and Aisha (ra)? Or the time he (ﷺ) caught Anas (ra) playing with kids, instead of running errands?

What if Rasulullah (ﷺ) told you how he remembered YOU, or how he knew YOUR name, and longed for the moment he would meet YOU?

What if Rasulullah (ﷺ) told you, that I remember when your salam reached me, and I answered Walaykumusalam so and so.

What if, at the end of that conversation, the Prophet (ﷺ) extended his hand and offered you a sip of water, after which ag6ain you would never feel thirst, not physically nor spiritually.

For the only sight more noble and beautiful than the face of Muhammad (ﷺ), is the face of the Lord of Muhammad (ﷺ), and the Lord of you.

And for that, all you have to do is look up…and you will see Allah (swt)…

Because in Al Firdos, you will never be left to imagine again.