Have you ever felt really down because you felt as though one of your friends or someone you know has achieved a lot more than you have? This could be in terms of knowledge, their socio-economic status, perhaps they have a better job or they have already graduated. Maybe they’re married and have children, and you feel like you’re falling behind. I think comparing yourself to others is one of the most poisonous things you can do to yourself. Unless you are comparing your situation to those who have less than you, in order for you to be grateful.
On the authority of Abu Huraira (R.A.A.) who said: The Prophet (PBUH), said: “Look upon one who is below you in status. In this way you will not look down upon the grace of that God bestowed upon you.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
We all know this hadith, and we know that the prophet Muhammad (SAW) only gives us the best advice. Then why do we keep comparing ourselves to those who we think are more ‘blessed’ or have more, even though we know we shouldn’t? I think sometimes it’s hard to control, it’s hard not to feel down when your friends have secure jobs and you’re job seeking almost everyday. However, it’s important that when we realise we are doing this, we stop ourselves and remember those who are less fortunate than us. It’s important that we remind ourselves that everyone has a different journey, and, that our sustenance has already been written by the Greatest of writers. If and when we are going to get married and have kids has been written by the Creator of the heavens and the earth, and He is the best of planners.
It’s also important to remember than even if we never get a job or our dream job, even if we live our whole life struggling financially, it’s ok. Why? Because wealth isn’t a measure of how much Allah SWT loves us. Health, wealth, anything in this world does not determine our status with Allah SWT. These things are a test for us, whether we pass them or not will influence our relationship with Allah SWT. If He wills that we will live our life in poverty it does not mean that He is displeased with us, and vice versa. Do we forget that our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW), who was sent as a mercy to mankind didn’t live a life of luxury? He was handpicked by Allah SWT to spread the message of Islam, he is so beloved to Allah SWT, and he lived his life in poverty. And what about all the other prophets (peace be upon them all), they were all shepherds, only a number of them were wealthy (correct me if I’m wrong). They all lived simple and humble lives. The same goes for the companions of the Prophet (SAW), they knew that this life is temporary, and they lived according to that.