I read online about someone asking a brother about marriage. He said he wasn’t ready yet because of the wedding expenses, having to financially support someone else. He also said ‘these days it’s hard to keep up with bills etc if the wife is also not working. And the person writing this thought it was a mature response. Coming from an Islamic page, I didn’t think it was a very mature response at all. And the following is how I responded:
It’s only mature if you look at it from a worldly perspective. As Muslims we should strive for the hereafter as it is our true destination, rather than putting every effort into this world. You’ve got to find the balance, Allahu alem, maybe he does. But like a few of the sisters mentioned, you have to trust Allah.
“Get the unmarried ones among you married, as well as the righteous slave men and slave women. If they are poor, Allah will make them independent by his grace” (Surah Nur, verse: 32)
Allah is The Ever Providing, and if you do something for His sake, then surely He will not disappoint. Second, a wedding should not be extravagant like our tradition says, there is nothing wrong with tradition as long as it does not clash with your Deen.
“And those, who, when they spend, are neither extravagant nor niggardly, but hold a medium (way) between those (extremes)” [al-Furqaan 25:67].
Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The most blessed nikah is the one with the least expenses”.
Also, don’t get me wrong, I don’t see anything wrong with a female working, but if he wants both of them to work full time, then when are they going to see each other and spend time together? Obviously, it’s a different story if you have to, but these days people work extra just to spend extravagantly which as above is not what we should be striving for, and of course nothing wrong with a little extra for a rainy day. But then again, who promised us tomorrow? And which world are we working harder for?